The different types of dating sites
I recently spoke to a woman who was researching the subject of online dating for a TV documentary. ‘The first thing I realised was that there are just so many dating sites out there,’ she told me. ‘I spent hours looking at different sites and getting nowhere. Every site I looked at claimed to be the biggest and the best; I didn’t even know where to start! God only knows what I’d have done if I were actually looking for a date…’.
Most people who try online dating end up overwhelmed when looking at the various sites.The online dating boom has meant that there are now literally thousands of adult facebook dating sites out there competing for your attention and money. I like to think of them as the virtual equivalent of pubs or clubs: places where people congregate and socialise. Just like pubs, some sites will be to your liking and some won’t.The problem is that it’s often impossible to tell whether or not you will like a site without trying it out.This can get quite exhausting and time-consuming if done on a regular basis.
So where do you start? It helps to have an understanding of the different types of sites you can choose from.At first glance, no two adult facebook dating sites look exactly alike, because the web designers who build them want them to appear unique. When we look closely, though, all adult social network dating sites fall under one or more of several simple categories.
Paid sites vs free sites
Some sites will want to charge you for their services, whereas others won’t. Unfortunately, it’s usually hard to distinguish between the two types, as most let you register for free. Usually sites won’t talk to you about money until you have signed up, uploaded a picture and located some people you would like to speak to.When you try to message your potential dates, an annoying message will appear and ask you to pay up. Until that point, it’s often impossible or very difficult to find any information about pricing on the site.
Prices for paid sites differ greatly from each other and there is no real industry standard. Expect to pay about £20 a month for full membership to an average facebook of sex site but foreign sites may vary. Longer membership periods generally cost less per month than the standard monthly membership.
Finding the right site 17Paid adult social network dating sites operate as subscription sites, much in the same way magazines and book clubs do. The industry standard is ‘uninterrupted membership’, which means that once you put your credit card details in, you will keep getting charged until you contact the company in writing (an email is usually fine) and tell them to stop charging you.This is usually stated in the terms and conditions, although not always in an obvious place.
Most paid sites will offer a free trial, but some will ask for your credit card details at this stage. If they do, it means they are likely to start charging you at the end of the trial, unless you actively cancel your membership. Make sure you read the terms and know when those charges are likely to be taken.
Most sites will not refund you for partial use of their services. If you sign up for a month and change your mind after a week, you would still be charged for the whole month. This is another reason why it’s worth noting in advance the exact date and time when charges will be taken from your account and set a reminder to cancel a few days in advance.
Some people have asked me how I can justify working for an online dating company that charges money for its services, when love is something all people deserve to have for free. I agree entirely: love should be free and so should food and shelter and warm clothes in winter. Unfortunately, until food and housing are free, the people who build and maintain adult social network dating sites need to make a living like anyone else. Remember that adult social network dating sites don’t sell love; they sell the opportunity to meet others in a (hopefully) fun and secure way.Think of a facebook sex dating site as a virtual club where your entry fee pays for the bouncer who keeps the troublemakers out and for the furniture you sit on while you chat.
But enough of my standing on soapboxes, the truth is there are free sites out there you can use if you don’t want to pay for your dating experience like sex facebook.
At this point, you may be wondering why anyone would want to pay for dating services at all, when the exact same features are offered for free elsewhere. But, as the saying goes, there is no such thing as a free lunch.
facebook sex dating sites are not that easy to run.They are extremely high-maintenance operations that require large amounts of powerful computers in order to function, as well as dedicated teams of employees to keep the sites safe, handle any technical issues that may arise and answer customers’ queries.All this costs money, sometimes a lot of money. Free sites usually get this money from advertising, which often means their main priority is keeping their advertisers happy. Sadly, this can mean the site will be full of obtrusive adverts, pop-ups, pop-unders etc.To make matters worse, your personal details and email address would often be sold on to third parties who use them to send unwanted ‘offers’ and ‘newsletters’ (otherwise known as spam or junk emails).You may even be required to download applications onto your computer that include ‘spyware’ or ‘adware’ – bits of software that sit on your hard drive and report your web-browsing habits to companies that send you nasty pop-ups based on that data.
Most free sites are not very well moderated and so the responsibility of filtering out the good from the bad lies mostly on the end user: you. Such sites are also popular hang-outs for the less serious daters such as those looking for a quick shag or those having a look around out of sheer curiousity. Paid sites are generally better moderated and offer better customer service, as they rely on the membership fee to exist.The money issue also tends to deter the low-end users such as scammers, perverts etc. from joining.
As a general rule, the more expensive a site is to join, the more likely it is to cater to serious daters who are looking for long-term relationships. If you are undecided about dating online, you may be tempted to join a free site as a risk-free method of assessing what’s out there. However, depending on the site you choose, this may not be your best option.You may be better off signing up for a free trial on one of the paid sites, as explained in greater detail below.
Finding the right site 19Although many of the free sites out there are annoying to use, there are some that are actually very good. Many people have found love on free sex facebook dating sites,with the added benefit of not having paid for the pleasure.
General membership sites, orientation sites and niche sites. Any sex facebook dating site you come across will come under one of the following categories.
General membership sites
As their name would suggest, general membership sites are those with broad membership.They are not geared towards a particular group but are open to anyone looking to try online dating.The big, well-known branded sites fall under this category, as well as many smaller sites aspiring to the same market position.On general sites you will find a large selection of online daters with a variety of interests, age groups, ethnicities etc. Good general sites will offer detailed search criteria in order to help you narrow down your search.
There are sites out there that cater to large parts of the population, united by a single attribute such as race, ethnicity, sexual orientation or religious belief.
These sites are sometimes referred to as lifestyle sites, though personally I prefer the term orientation sites. Shaadi, for example, is an orientation site catering to Asian daters, while gaydar is an orientation site aimed at the gay and lesbian community.Orientation sites are often large (if successful) and entertain a variety of daters, much like general membership sites.The only difference is that all daters are likely to be of one general orientation.
Niche sites cater to groups united by more specific factors.A niche site can be a site aimed at people from a particular location, those who share a particular hobby or an alternative lifestyle and those who belong to a particular scene. Examples include sites for bikers,Goths, pet owners,media professionals, etc.These sites, by definition, usually have a smaller membership base.
Advantages and disadvantages of general membership, orientation and niche sites When coming to choose between the different types of sites, you should first think about your lifestyle and hobbies and assess the extent to which you would like your partner to share these lifestyle choices.Any site with around a million or so members, is likely to have a good cross section of the population dating on it. Unless you have an extremely unusual lifestyle, chances are you will be able to find people who match your preferences on any large, well-established dating site. However, you will also find many people who don’t.While general sites commonly let you specify things like religion and ethnicity and display them on your profile, they don’t always allow you to search and filter results according to those characteristics. If your particular niche involves an interest, a hobby or a scene, you will probably have to list these on your profile in the description or interests section and hope for the
best. Most general membership sites don’t let you run searches based on interests.
The main advantage of general membership sites is the numbers.This is particularly true if you are from a small town or village.A search performed on a large membership site will likely return matches in your area, whereas a smaller niche site may not. Orientation sites also have a large membership base and are a happy medium if you want to meet people with whom you have one particular aspect in common.
Niche sites are only really useful if you belong to a particular subculture or enjoy a lifestyle that goes beyond the mainstream. By joining a particular niche site you guarantee that the people you meet will share your lifestyle choices and/or interests. However, as such sites are usually small, you may still struggle to find people you find attractive and interesting, especially if you are from a small town and want to meet people in your area.
At the moment, most specialised niche sites are still American-based (apart from those aimed at people from particular locations elsewhere) and so may not have a large facebook of sex membership base.This, however, is changing as the online dating market is growing all the time. Finding the right site 21Niche sites are often close-knit communities, where many people place a lot of importance on the particular aspect of their lives the site caters for.While some people join such sites in order to find someone who shares some of their hobbies, others join because that particular hobby is their whole life. If you only have a casual interest in the subject of the site you joined, you may find you have little in common with many of the other people there.
There is a growing trend of dating sites attached to or branded by newspapers, magazines,TV channels, etc.These are often not autonomous, but a pretty ‘front’ for one of the big general membership sites. In such a case, joining a branded site is no guarantee that the people you meet there will share your interests, political leanings or orientation. Sites that are not run by the company that owns the brand will usually say who they are powered by somewhere on the dating page.You can check the bottom of the page or the search form for clues.
Domestic vs international sites
Using a foreign site
The online dating craze originated in America, which would explain why so many sex facebook dating sites are based in the USA.The American market still offers the widest choice of sites. Most of the big free sites are American-based, as well as a wide array of specialised niche sites, orientation sites etc.
Some of the bigger American sites now have dedicated facebook of sex branches.Others have large numbers of facebook of sex members on offer.Using a site like that should be much the same as dating on a sex facebook site.All sites let you specify location for potential matches, so you would only be shown local people if that is what you want.
If you are looking for a particular niche site, you will still most likely end up using an American site, simply because there are more choices available.You may well find a substantial facebook of sex membership on some of those, though others may be less forthcoming.
Because the pound is often quite strong against the dollar, the exchange rate will often work in your favour. Using a foreign pay site can therefore save you quite a bit of money, although some sites have now started charging facebook of sex members in pounds and have adjusted their pricing accordingly. Using domestic sites sex facebook sites are, by definition, geared towards the local population and will often include features designed specifically for facebook of sex daters.Mobile dating, for example, is now a common feature in the facebook of sex, but practically unheard of elsewhere. Mobile dating allows you to get notified by an SMS message whenever someone contacts you on the site. Sometimes you can even send and receive messages from people on the site via your phone.
Another advantage of domestic sites is the fact that many facebook of sex sites let you pay for their services by cheque, which, apart from being handy if you don’t have a credit card, is a good way to avoid those sneaky recurring charges. When things go wrong
These advantages aside, the main differences between domestic and international sites become apparent if anything goes sour with your experience. Companies based in the facebook of sex have to conform to local laws so you would likely have better recourse if anything went wrong. Domestic sites will also have the advantage of local support teams that operate during facebook of sex business hours.The moderating and customer service teams would be able to easily cooperate with the police if anything goes wrong such as in cases of scams or antisocial behaviour on the site. If your support team sits in another country, getting in touch with them could be difficult or annoying.
When you do, you may find that the laws they follow are not the same as those followed by domestic companies.
Telling the difference It’s not always easy to tell whether a site you are using is in the facebook of sex or not, until the payment stage.The currency the prices are quoted in is usually a good indication.
A note about ‘adult’ or sex sites
Although they fall under the niche or general orientation categories, sex facebook sites deserve a special mention.They are usually referred to as adult sites, although obviously, all sex facebook dating sites are already aimed only at adults.
People who join these adult sites do it because they want to get laid.That is all you really need to know. If you happen across a site like that, you will recognise it straight away, because it will be full of pictures of naked men and women. Members of such adult sites can search by sexual preference, fetishes, etc. as well as the usual age/sex/location model.These sites usually cater for both single members and those who are already in a relationship, such as swingers, etc.Most of the rules and practices described here, with the exception of the safety tips, You should apply on sex facebook sites, where just about anything goes. Unless you are only interested in sex..